How to Create a Ceremony
If you wanted to follow a more formal course for your Ceremony, you may begin with a welcome or Introduction, thanking people for coming and stating directly that we are here acknowledge a death and to honour and celebrate the life of your much loved family pet. You can then name them and all their nicknames too.
You can tell some of the story of how they died. This is very useful for everyone gathered as it lays down the narrative with which all members of the family will carry with them as they begin to grieve and make sense of their pets’ absence in your lives.
Honouring and celebrating is important, equally too is giving space and words to the fact that is a death that has brought everyone together in this instance.
Tell the story of your pets’ life, from beginning right through to its completion. This offers you an opportunity to put into words just what your pet has given you in their life and always opens out the mood from sadness to remembering the great and funny times.
Invite people to speak - to offer up their stories or experiences of your pet.
Children can read poems or tell their stories.
Close the ceremony with music, or by putting into words what your pet gave to your lives, thanking them for this and what you wish for them now.
Your own beliefs about what happens after death in terms of an afterlife, heaven, reincarnation or spiritual practice of any sort, will determine just what you say throughout your ceremony.
Create a safe and appropriate place in which you can really be witnessed and your feelings expressed about just how much your pet means to you, how solid the bond, how unconditional the love, and how longstanding the relationship.
Author Victoria Spence